What to do if someone is or may be suicidal:

Talk openly about suicide.

Ask the person, “Are you feeling so bad that you are thinking about suicide?”

If the answer is yes, ask, “Have you thought about how you would do it?”

If the answer is yes, ask, “Do you have what you need to do it?”

If the answer is yes, ask, “Have you thought about when you would do it?”

Here are those four important questions in abbreviated form:

  1.  Suicidal?
  2.  Method?
  3.  Have what you need?
  4.  When?

You need to know as much as possible about what is going on in the person’s mind. The more planning that someone has put into a suicide, the greater the risk. If the person has a method and a time in mind, the risk is extremely high and you cannot hesitate to call 911 and ensure that professional treatment is given.

Questions you can ask:

  1.  When did you begin feeling like this?
  2.  Did something happen that made you start feeling this way?
  3.  How can I best support you right now?
  4.  Have you thought about getting help?

What you can say that helps:

▪You are not alone in this. I’m here for you.

▪You may not believe it now, but the way you’re feeling will change.

▪I may not be able to understand exactly how you feel, but I care about you and want to help.

▪When you want to give up, tell yourself you will hold off for just one more day, hour, minute—whatever you can manage.

When talking to a suicidal person

Do:

▪     Be yourself. Let the person know you care, that he/she is not alone. The right words are often unimportant. If you are concerned, your voice and manner will show it.

▪     Listen. Let the suicidal person unload despair, ventilate anger. No matter how negative the conversation seems, the fact that it exists is a positive sign.

▪     Be sympathetic, non-judgmental, patient, calm, accepting. Your friend or family member is doing the right thing by talking about his/her feelings.

▪     Offer hope. Reassure the person that help is available and that the suicidal feelings are temporary. Let the person know that his or her life is important to you.

▪     If the person says things like, “I’m so depressed, I can’t go on,” ask the question: “Are you having thoughts of suicide?” You are not putting ideas in their head, you are showing that you are concerned, that you take them seriously, and that it’s OK for them to share their pain with you.

But don’t:

▪     Don’t argue with the suicidal person. Avoid saying things like: “You have so much to live for,” “Your suicide will hurt your family,” or “Look on the bright side.”

▪     Don’t act shocked, lecture on the value of life, or say that suicide is wrong.

▪     Don’t promise confidentiality. Refuse to be sworn to secrecy. A life is at stake and you may need to speak to a mental health professional in order to keep the suicidal person safe. If you promise to keep your discussions secret, you may have to break your word.

▪     Don’t offer ways to fix their problems, or give advice, or make them feel like they have to justify their suicidal feelings. It is not about how bad the problem is, but how badly it’s hurting your friend or loved one.

▪     Don’t blame yourself. You can’t “fix” someone’s depression. Your loved one’s happiness, or lack thereof, is not your responsibility.


For More Information:

Help Guide

http://www.suicide.org/how-to-help-a-suicidal-person.html


Numbers For Direct Support:

Veteran Crisis Line

Phone: 1-800-273-8255

Text: 838255

Chat Online: Veterans Crisis Line Chat

Website: http://veteranscrisisline.net/

 

Vet2Vet – Crisis Hotline and VA Mental Health Program Assistance

Phone: 1-877-VET2VET(8382838)

Website: http://www.veteranscall.us

 

Brian Kelley – Project Radio Check Organizer

Phone: 602-421-8209

Email: briansullivankelley@gmail.com

 

Joseph Lyon – Project Radio Check Organizer

Phone: 512-718-6846

Email: lyonjoseph@hotmail.com